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    'It's a measly diamond, you didn't get down on one knee and WHERE'S my flashmob?' Fifth of women left disappointed by their man's proposal

    One in 10 would turn down proposal if they didn't like ring
    Half would consider making a financial contribution to get a better ring
    Flop proposals gone include diamonds that are too small - or no ring at all

    By BIANCA LONDON
    PUBLISHED: 05:51 EST, 5 February 2014 | UPDATED: 08:00 EST, 5 February 2014

    Nothing says 'I love you' like a fairy-tale proposal complete with the perfect diamond ring.
    But listen up, men. You need to up your game because one in five women are left disappointed by your efforts.

    A new survey has revealed that 21 per cent of engaged, married or divorced women were left disappointed by their marriage proposal, but they didn't say anything to their other half and now wished they had.

    And 13 per cent of those said they were so disappointed by the proposal that they wanted to cry after it had failed to live up to their expectations.

    According to the survey, the top factors cited for marriage proposals gone wrong were: engagement rings that were too small or even no ring at all.

    Women were also offended by their men not proposing on bended knee, as tradition dictates, as well as failing to organise a 'special' proposal or not asking parents' permission for their daughter's hand in marriage.

    Several couples even had an argument following a less than perfect proposal - whilst other respondents confided in friends about their imperfect proposal rather than turning to their partners. And it seems that modern would-be brides are so desperate to bag their dream engagement ring they are chipping in to the cost themselves.

    The survey revealed that almost half of women (45 per cent) would consider making a financial contribution to their engagement ring and 7 per cent have actually done this.

    Clearly getting an engagement ring and choosing the right one is of the utmost importance - more than a third of women surveyed (38 per cent) said that an engagement ring matters because it is a symbol of how much their partner loves them.

    And 12 per cent of the engaged, married or divorced women who were polled said they would change the style of their engagement ring with 10 per cent saying they would change the size of their diamond - presumably for a larger one!.

    Nearly a quarter of all respondents (24 per cent) said they didn't like any of their friends' engagement rings; one in fifteen ladies (7 per cent) admitted they do like their friends' engagement rings, but would never tell them.

    Some women had modelled the design of their own engagement rings on friends' rings - whilst others had made sure their engagement rings were 'bigger and better' than their friends'.

    The classic Tiffany solitaire ring is the favourite design of engagement ring, with almost 1 in 5 women (20 per cent) saying that is the one they like the most. The second favourite is a trilogy ring with a diamond representing the past, the present and the future, with 12 per cent voting for this design. A close third is the former Kate Middleton’s famous blue sapphire oval cut engagement ring, with this being the firm favourite of 11 percent of the women polled. The engagement rings of celebrities Angelina Jolie and Gwyneth Paltrow were also popular.

    A spokesperson from Vashi.com, who commissioned the survey, said: 'It has been very insightful to learn that so many females would make a financial contribution to their engagement ring, further proving just how important the ring of their dreams really is.'
    My husband must hate my guts since I still don't have an engagement ring! These guys would be better off dumping women who have misplaced expectations in this area.


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    "Alexa, slaughter the fatted calf."

  • #2
    Originally posted by Gingersnap View Post
    My husband must hate my guts since I still don't have an engagement ring! These guys would be better off dumping women who have misplaced expectations in this area.


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    It's England!! That's like California completely surrounded by water.
    If it pays, it stays

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Frostbit View Post
      It's England!! That's like California completely surrounded by water.
      I wonder what the poll would be like over here?

      I think it's distasteful to reckon someone's love based on their skill and daring in offering financially risky presents. It's like these couples who somehow think $20,000 for a wedding is 'reasonable'. After all, it's her special day. There's even a commercial running for wedding gowns which has the groom doing a voice over in which he comes right out and says that he's just there on technical issues - the entire event is just to showcase the harridan he's marrying.

      That's no way to start a life together. If your wedding is "the best day of your life", you are in for a world of disappointment.
      "Alexa, slaughter the fatted calf."

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Gingersnap View Post
        I wonder what the poll would be like over here?

        I think it's distasteful to reckon someone's love based on their skill and daring in offering financially risky presents. It's like these couples who somehow think $20,000 for a wedding is 'reasonable'. After all, it's her special day. There's even a commercial running for wedding gowns which has the groom doing a voice over in which he comes right out and says that he's just there on technical issues - the entire event is just to showcase the harridan he's marrying.

        That's no way to start a life together. If your wedding is "the best day of your life", you are in for a world of disappointment.
        I sold a Honda 350 SL for Joyce's meager engagement ring 40 years ago. She knew I sold the bike but didn't know why until I gave her the ring. The gesture probably meant more than the ring.

        You may recall I took a big chance 4 years ago and surprised her with a much bigger chunk of bling for our 35th. She's not the flashy type that flaunts jewelry but man she surprised me on her thrill to get that rock.

        Women like bling, whether it's the look of it or the meaning behind it.
        If it pays, it stays

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Frostbit View Post

          Women like bling, whether it's the look of it or the meaning behind it.
          That's a bold statement and one I doubt your wife would agree with if she was talking about a worthy woman.

          An unworthy woman will want the bling regardless of the cost. A worthy woman will appreciate the effort when everything else is taken care of. It's the same for worthy and unworthy men. The unworthy of either sex are so focused on their own desires and their status in their little peer groups that they will ruin a normal person to make sure they "look" good.

          I doubt Joyce would want you to ruin your financial future to give her something to show the girls at work.
          "Alexa, slaughter the fatted calf."

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Gingersnap View Post
            That's a bold statement and one I doubt your wife would agree with if she was talking about a worthy woman.

            An unworthy woman will want the bling regardless of the cost. A worthy woman will appreciate the effort when everything else is taken care of. It's the same for worthy and unworthy men. The unworthy of either sex are so focused on their own desires and their status in their little peer groups that they will ruin a normal person to make sure they "look" good.

            I doubt Joyce would want you to ruin your financial future to give her something to show the girls at work.
            She never worn it to work.
            If it pays, it stays

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Frostbit View Post
              She never worn it to work.
              I rest my case.
              "Alexa, slaughter the fatted calf."

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Gingersnap View Post
                I wonder what the poll would be like over here?

                I think it's distasteful to reckon someone's love based on their skill and daring in offering financially risky presents. It's like these couples who somehow think $20,000 for a wedding is 'reasonable'. After all, it's her special day. There's even a commercial running for wedding gowns which has the groom doing a voice over in which he comes right out and says that he's just there on technical issues - the entire event is just to showcase the harridan he's marrying.

                That's no way to start a life together. If your wedding is "the best day of your life", you are in for a world of disappointment.
                Or maybe you're realistic.
                Not where I breathe, but where I love, I live...
                Robert Southwell, S.J.

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                • #9
                  There has been a seismic shift in male female dynamics over the last two decades. When HRH was very young we read mothers complain about aggressive girls calling boys (sometimes dozens of time a day). Somewhere along the way the boys realized that if they acted distant and disinterested it generated power. Add in the Rap factor of calling females bitches and hoes, and you start to see a male who treats females like females have traditionally treated males : Like they are doing him a favor by speaking to him, dating him, marrying him. You started to see "FWB" being thrown around, in other words; social and sexual equals rather than the "Buy me something and I might." and "Now that you have, spend all your time with me, when I want you to of course." At the point, "traditional" couples are in minority with the male member of that couple being labelled with words unkind to both him and her.

                  SO it's reasonable to assume that it will swing back the other way a tad sometime soon. Girls will reclaim some of their privilege, boys will give up some of their aversion to commitment, and once again white weddings will be followed by picket fences somewhere besides Salt Lake.
                  The year's at the spring
                  And day's at the morn;
                  Morning's at seven;
                  The hill-side's dew-pearled;
                  The lark's on the wing;
                  The snail's on the thorn:
                  God's in his heaven—
                  All's right with the world!

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Novaheart View Post

                    SO it's reasonable to assume that it will swing back the other way a tad sometime soon. Girls will reclaim some of their privilege, boys will give up some of their aversion to commitment, and once again white weddings will be followed by picket fences somewhere besides Salt Lake.
                    Maybe. I think part of the problem (in addition to Nova's points) is that young people who are interested in family issues and who are also young enough to be psychologically open to learning to live together in commitment tend to couple up earlier. This means the "good" ones really do get taken.

                    You end up with an imbalanced situation where men who now want to commit are looking at women younger than themselves (for childbearing) and women who have delayed marriage are less eligible to many men unless those men are older and already have marital baggage.

                    Beyond that, the older you are when you settle down, the more dissatisfied you tend to be since you've missed that developmental window with that particular person. It's not that second marriages can't work or that older first-marrieds can't be successful; it's just that odds change.
                    "Alexa, slaughter the fatted calf."

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