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  • McDonald's Gave Me the “Girl's Toy” With My Happy Meal. So I Went to the CEO.

    McDonald's Gave Me the “Girl's Toy” With My Happy Meal. So I Went to the CEO.

    By Antonia Ayres-Brown

    We found that 92.9 percent of the time, the store simply gave each child the toy that McDonald’s had designated for that child’s gender.

    In the fall of 2008, when I was 11 years old, I wrote to the CEO of McDonald’s and asked him to change the way his stores sold Happy Meals. I expressed my frustration that McDonald’s always asked if my family preferred a “girl toy” or a “boy toy” when we ordered a Happy Meal at the drive-through. My letter asked if it would be legal for McDonald’s “to ask at a job interview whether someone wanted a man’s job or a woman’s job?”

    A few weeks later, I received a short response from a McDonald’s customer satisfaction representative claiming that McDonald’s doesn’t train their employees to ask whether Happy Meal customers want boys’ or girls’ toys, and my experiences were not the norm.

    This response was unsatisfying, so I began visiting more than a dozen local McDonald’s locations with my father to collect data. Ultimately, we brought a complaint to the Connecticut Commission on Human Rights and Opportunities against McDonald’s for discriminating on the basis of sex. Despite our evidence showing that, in our test, McDonald’s employees described the toys in gendered terms more than 79 percent of the time, the commission dismissed our allegations as “absurd” and solely for the purposes of “titilation [sic] and sociological experimentation.” All in all, this was a pretty humiliating defeat.

    But I still couldn’t let it go. When the commission was considering our claims in 2008, one of the McDonald’s stores accused us of “conveniently stop[ping the] experiment short to concoct this case.” The store claimed that if I had just asked for a boy’s toy they would have been happy to oblige. So this past summer, we decided to test this assertion.

    In a series of 30 visits, we sent boys and girls, ages 7-11, into 15 McDonald’s stores to independently order a Happy Meal at the counter. We found that 92.9 percent of the time, the store, without asking, simply gave each child the toy that McDonald’s had designated for that child’s gender—a Justice fashion toy for girls and a Power Rangers toy for boys. What's worse was the trouble the children encountered when they immediately returned to the counter and asked to exchange their unopened toy: 42.8 percent of stores refused to exchange for an opposite-sex toy.

    In the most egregious instance, a McDonald’s employee asked a girl, “Would you like the girl's toy?” The girl responded, “No, could I have the boy's toy?” When the girl opened the container a moment later, she learned that notwithstanding her explicit request, a McDonald’s employee had given her the girl’s toy. This girl went back to the counter with the unopened toy and requested, “May I have a boy's toy, please?” The same McDonald’s employee replied, “There are only girl's toys.” We then sent an adult male into the store who immediately was given a boy’s toy.

    Instead of filing another complaint, I tried a more conciliatory approach. I again wrote to the CEO of McDonald’s, now Donald Thompson, sharing the results of our recent study and expressing my continued concern with the harmful effects of gender-classified toys. On Dec. 17, I received an amazing letter back from McDonald’s chief diversity officer, Patricia Harris, saying, “It is McDonald’s intention and goal that each customer who desires a Happy Meal toy be provided the toy of his or her choice, without any classification of the toy as a ‘boy’ or ‘girl’ toy and without any reference to the customer’s gender. We have recently reexamined our internal guidelines, communications and practices and are making improvements to better ensure that our toys are distributed consistent with our policy.”
    Way more.

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  • #2
    What an idiot. The Connecticut Commission on Human Rights and Opportunities was right: this is absurd and asinine.
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    • #3
      Originally posted by Adam View Post
      What an idiot. The Connecticut Commission on Human Rights and Opportunities was right: this is absurd and asinine.
      I wouldn't have involved a govenmental agency, but giving Mickey D's a hard time until they agree to knock that shit off? I'm there. You don't have kids and have no idea how difficult it is to raise a kid with a healthy sense of her or his own identity when people ad especially huge organizations, both corporate ad governmental, persist in enforcing sex-role stereotypes.

      A friend's son, a talented dancer, gave up ballet because the teacher persistently referred o the class collectively as "girls."

      Dads on the playground would frequently assume HRH was a boy, because she was an athletic and fearless pre-schooler. They would use her to shame their sons into trying something the kid was afraid to do or not yet skilled enough to do, because "Look at him doing it - you're not scared, are you, tiger?"

      HRH was totally into Transformers, but we had to trade for the Transformer toy every time, because the cashiers at McDonald's would automatically give her the "girl toy," no matter what I said in response to "girl toy or boy toy?". To their credit, I was never refused the trade at our local McD's.

      HRH's best friend from the age of 2 to age 5 was a little boy. By the time he finished kindergarten, the culture at his traditional school had convinced him that girls had cooties. The boys at HRH's school weren't like that, but it took a long time for her to get over losing her first best friend.

      There is constant propaganda and pressure, largely from corporate sources but also individuals and non-commercial institutions, to conform to outdated sex-role stereotypes. Or to new ones, like hypersexual appearance for younger girls and thug chic for boys of all ages.
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      • #4
        I'd be more upset that a child is eating a Happy Meal.
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        may they draw upon that wilder bond, those days of tending tender things and be the one.

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        • #5
          It's all a bunch of crap. I asked many if they wanted the boy or the girl toy. I gave them what they asked for. Yes, I would usually give what they appeared to be (boy or girl) but if they wanted the different toy they got that instead. Yes, most kids want toys that match their gender. Sure, some don't and that's fine.

          Any decent ballet studio isn't going to call the students "girls" because they will actually have boys in the studio. One of our male students really was a good fighter...mostly because his stepfather beat the shit out of him at least once a week and because he did literally get into fights on his way to ballet class. He ultimately ended up at Alvin Ailey and was a pretty good dancer.
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          • #6
            Originally posted by phillygirl View Post
            It's all a bunch of crap. I asked many if they wanted the boy or the girl toy. I gave them what they asked for. Yes, I would usually give what they appeared to be (boy or girl) but if they wanted the different toy they got that instead. Yes, most kids want toys that match their gender. Sure, some don't and that's fine.
            More importantly, AFAIC, is the fact that her complaint stems from being asked which toy at the drive-through. I don't know about the Micky D's that you worked at, but every one that I've ever been to that has a drive-through, the person taking the order could not see who was in the car, hence the reason for the question.

            Ultimately, this dingbat is simply offended by the words "girl" and "boy," doubtless because her "parents" have tried to tell her from a very young age that there is no difference between boys and girls. Well, sorry, but there is a difference between girls and boys, and no, it's not some sort of cisheteropatriarchial roles-impugning oppression to ask whether someone wants a boys' Happy Meal or a girls' Happy Meal. That your parents did you the tremendous disservice of lying to you about reality is not McDonald's fault.
            It's been ten years since that lonely day I left you
            In the morning rain, smoking gun in hand
            Ten lonely years but how my heart, it still remembers
            Pray for me, momma, I'm a gypsy now

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Adam View Post
              More importantly, AFAIC, is the fact that her complaint stems from being asked which toy at the drive-through. I don't know about the Micky D's that you worked at, but every one that I've ever been to that has a drive-through, the person taking the order could not see who was in the car, hence the reason for the question.

              Ultimately, this dingbat is simply offended by the words "girl" and "boy," doubtless because her "parents" have tried to tell her from a very young age that there is no difference between boys and girls. Well, sorry, but there is a difference between girls and boys, and no, it's not some sort of cisheteropatriarchial roles-impugning oppression to ask whether someone wants a boys' Happy Meal or a girls' Happy Meal. That your parents did you the tremendous disservice of lying to you about reality is not McDonald's fault.
              There's a good chance that it wasn't the order taker, but the cashier that asked if it was a boy or girl toy. That's the kind of thing might be left to the cashier. Granted, it's been a long time since I worked at McD's, but to ask that kind of detail through the stupid speaker wouldn't make a whole lot of sense. I don't disagree that this "happened" to her. I just disagree that it matters.
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              • #8
                Originally posted by phillygirl View Post
                There's a good chance that it wasn't the order taker, but the cashier that asked if it was a boy or girl toy. That's the kind of thing might be left to the cashier. Granted, it's been a long time since I worked at McD's, but to ask that kind of detail through the stupid speaker wouldn't make a whole lot of sense. I don't disagree that this "happened" to her. I just disagree that it matters.
                Meh. Her words, so I took that at face value:

                "I expressed my frustration that McDonald’s always asked if my family preferred a “girl toy” or a “boy toy” when we ordered a Happy Meal at the drive-through."

                I suppose she could mean that the question was not asked at the box but instead at the window, but that doesn't necessarily make any real difference here: you can't always see into a car from the drive-through window, particularly if the kid in question is in the back seat.

                This has the moral equivalence of me getting mad because McD's asked me if I wanted peanuts with the sundae that I got there on Saturday.
                It's been ten years since that lonely day I left you
                In the morning rain, smoking gun in hand
                Ten lonely years but how my heart, it still remembers
                Pray for me, momma, I'm a gypsy now

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Adam View Post
                  More importantly, AFAIC, is the fact that her complaint stems from being asked which toy at the drive-through. I don't know about the Micky D's that you worked at, but every one that I've ever been to that has a drive-through, the person taking the order could not see who was in the car, hence the reason for the question.

                  Ultimately, this dingbat is simply offended by the words "girl" and "boy," doubtless because her "parents" have tried to tell her from a very young age that there is no difference between boys and girls. Well, sorry, but there is a difference between girls and boys, and no, it's not some sort of cisheteropatriarchial roles-impugning oppression to ask whether someone wants a boys' Happy Meal or a girls' Happy Meal. That your parents did you the tremendous disservice of lying to you about reality is not McDonald's fault.
                  A child with a penis does not play with My Little Pony. A child without a penis does not play with Skylanders figures. I'm sorry, that's just reality.
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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Adam View Post
                    Meh. Her words, so I took that at face value:

                    "I expressed my frustration that McDonald’s always asked if my family preferred a “girl toy” or a “boy toy” when we ordered a Happy Meal at the drive-through."

                    I suppose she could mean that the question was not asked at the box but instead at the window, but that doesn't necessarily make any real difference here: you can't always see into a car from the drive-through window, particularly if the kid in question is in the back seat.

                    This has the moral equivalence of me getting mad because McD's asked me if I wanted peanuts with the sundae that I got there on Saturday.
                    You have completely missed the point. The author is not complaining about the fact they were asked a question. The author is equally disturbed that gender-specific toys are provided at the counter without asking. The complaint is that the toys are given gender assignment. Look what the author describes as "heartening":

                    Even more heartening, DoSomething.org just posted a photo of a manager’s notice on the wall of an actual McDonald’s store instructing employees: “When a customer orders a happy meal you must ask ‘will that be a My Little Pony toy? Or a Skylanders toy?’. We will no longer refer to them as ‘boy or girl toys.’ ”
                    You see? She doesn't mind that a question is asked. She just wants the gender bias taken out of the question. She want a little girl and a little boy to be treated the same, toy-wise.
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                    • #11
                      Age 11.

                      Jeebus.

                      What was I doing at 11?

                      Uhh... lemme think...

                      Not bitching about what toy was proffered at some fast food place. Hell, the first time I was at a McDonalds, I was a Freshman in HS.

                      At 11, I was playing baseball, staging rock fights in the neighborhood, wandering the mined out areas around my small SW Mo town, swimming in mine pits, learning how to smoke..... riding my bike everywhere... teasing my older sisters friends about wearing a bra...

                      The list is endless, but I would have had zero desire to write a letter to the CEO of some multinational bitching about some minor shit.

                      I'm so glad that this persons parents raised such a conscientious, socially aware bitch, but am firmly convinced that:

                      a. it wasn't her idea
                      b. the parents dictated the letter
                      c. the person, as an adult, will be so out of touch with the real world that she will seek psychiatric help
                      d. she will eventually devote her life to left wing activism by tilting at windmills

                      I can't remember being offended at 11 except by some name or call out from a classmate that probably resulted in a fight on the playground. By 8th grade, the fights were moved off campus.
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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Norm dePlume View Post
                        You have completely missed the point. The author is not complaining about the fact they were asked a question. The author is equally disturbed that gender-specific toys are provided at the counter without asking. The complaint is that the toys are given gender assignment. Look what the author describes as "heartening":



                        You see? She doesn't mind that a question is asked. She just wants the gender bias taken out of the question. She want a little girl and a little boy to be treated the same, toy-wise
                        .
                        Yep. And that's stupid. Life must be really grand for her to fret over that kind of crap.
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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Gramps View Post
                          Age 11.

                          Jeebus.

                          What was I doing at 11?

                          Uhh... lemme think...

                          Not bitching about what toy was proffered at some fast food place. Hell, the first time I was at a McDonalds, I was a Freshman in HS.

                          At 11, I was playing baseball, staging rock fights in the neighborhood, wandering the mined out areas around my small SW Mo town, swimming in mine pits, learning how to smoke..... riding my bike everywhere... teasing my older sisters friends about wearing a bra...

                          The list is endless, but I would have had zero desire to write a letter to the CEO of some multinational bitching about some minor shit.

                          I'm so glad that this persons parents raised such a conscientious, socially aware bitch, but am firmly convinced that:

                          a. it wasn't her idea
                          b. the parents dictated the letter
                          c. the person, as an adult, will be so out of touch with the real world that she will seek psychiatric help
                          d. she will eventually devote her life to left wing activism by tilting at windmills

                          I can't remember being offended at 11 except by some name or call out from a classmate that probably resulted in a fight on the playground. By 8th grade, the fights were moved off campus.
                          Oh, geez. I didn't even catch that it was allegedly the kid that wrote the letter. Even more stupid. I did ask to be an altar girl at that age. Although, it was probably more my dad's idea (but I did think the altar boys were "rock stars"). The answer, of course, was no...girls can't do that. I was a bit perturbed (Helen Reddy was my favorite singer back then, after all)...but I didn't go all EEOC on my parish.
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                          • #14
                            I was playing baseball and going to Sonic when we had a game. Other times, I rode my bike a couple of blocks to the theater downtown to watch Godzilla movies for 60 cents.

                            Girls were just starting to play little league. We saw it as a liability for the team they played on. We were right.
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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by phillygirl View Post
                              Oh, geez. I didn't even catch that it was allegedly the kid that wrote the letter. Even more stupid. I did ask to be an altar girl at that age. Although, it was probably more my dad's idea (but I did think the altar boys were "rock stars"). The answer, of course, was no...girls can't do that. I was a bit perturbed (Helen Reddy was my favorite singer back then, after all)...but I didn't go all EEOC on my parish.
                              Good idea..

                              You don't fuck with God.

                              BTW, you might have inadvertently dated yourself.
                              Helen Reddy fan at age 11.
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                              and lost …
                              But the Republicans are racist.

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